The separation that you have endured was the worst thing imaginable.
It was in no way your fault.
No one can ever put it right again.
But you yourself can work at understanding and coming to terms with it, and you will be a stronger and more caring person if you make the effort. Talk to a close friend, a support group, a therapist, or God if you believe in Him. Talking to someone sympathetic always helps, and so does having a good cry when you need to.
The separation of mothers and babies is sometimes unavoidable, and you have every right to feel sorry for yourself and for all others who have undergone such a tragic experience.
This poem is not about the separation of parents and children, but I include it because it expresses the pain of loss so well, and touches me so deeply.
From Renascence and other poems, 1917
Edna’s father left home when she was seven years old. As an adult she had many affairs with men as well as women, and eventually she married a man who gave her love and support until he died - the year before she did. Nevertheless, loss and grief are the theme of many of her poems.